Is ED Ruining Your Relationship? If so, you need to remember…
Stress, especially relationship stress, can cause blatant erectile dysfunction…
Even in men who have nothing physical preventing their “little soldier” from standing at attention.
What’s worse, a little ED can lead to serious relationship stress…which can lead to more ED…
Which causes even more stress on the relationship.
To make the situation even less fair, once ED starts it can take a while to repair, especially if the situation has you psyched out mentally.
This leaves your relationship suffering from a major stressor even as you’re trying to fix the cause of the stress.
So what can you do about it? Become a monk until your ED is under control?
You do things to help relieve the stress on the relationship, along with 5 specific techniques that will help you get your head back into the game.
1: Tell Her it’s Not Her Fault
Do this repeatedly, because she needs to know you still find her attractive.
But before you have this conversation, take a quick look at this partial list of items that can cause ED in men.
- High cholesterol
- Circulatory problems
- Metabolic Syndrome
- Tobacco use
- Alcohol and drug abuse
- Pornography addiction
- A variety of diseases
- Poor nitric oxide production
- Relationship problems
You’ll notice that “she’s not sexy enough” is not on that list.
The closest thing is relationship issues, but that’s still not the same as not being attracted to her.
What’s probably happening is, the stressors on the relationship are causing hormonal and neurotransmitter issues inside your brain.
So make sure you remind her over and over again that your ED is not her fault.
Even if she’s gained a little weight. Especially if she’s gained a little weight. Even if she’s being kind of a bitch about your inability to get an erection.
And for the love of god, never blame her for a lost erection or otherwise take out your frustration about this out on her.
2: Ask for Her Help
Your ED is not your partner’s fault, but it is her problem. Well, it’s your shared problem.
You can ask her for help, and it’s likely she’ll give it to you.
Women are hard-wired by mother nature to be the nurturers in relationships.
That may sound sexist, but guess what — biology is sexist. So helping you with your erectile dysfunction will come naturally to her.
Better, when you ask for help it takes the focus off of your problem and puts it on finding a solution.
It also builds a general vibe of you two working together against the ED, and this teamwork will do good things for your relationship
And remember, this shift in focus in mandatory if you expect to recover.
According to Relationship and Sex Therapist LIsa Thomas, going without sex leads to anxiety in the bedroom the next time sex is a possibility.
Which, for men with ED, makes it less likely you’ll be able to have sex…which puts you back in that vicious cycle I mentioned at the beginning of this article.
Instead, enlist your partner’s help and work together to get yourself and your relationship back on track.
This will ease the anxiety and help you focus on the things that really matter.
3: Take Your Focus Off the Erection
Focusing on your erection is such a sure-fire erection killer at least five sitcoms have based episodes around the phenomenon.
You’ve been there, so we can walk right past an all-too-familiar description and move right on to the solution…
When it’s “business time,” become a Master at foreplay.
Put your entire focus on her and her pleasure, and have a plan that doesn’t rely on getting hard and having “real” sex (for now at least).
Remember: women can orgasm from all kinds of things, whereas we men have a limited number of routes to the top of that mountain.
Sex researcher Tallulah Sulis has proven that a woman can climax for 20 consecutive minutes without using your penis at all.
If you make sex about pleasing her, even without her having a “real” orgasm, it drastically increases her production of the “love hormone” Oxytocin.”
Oxytocin is a self-made love potion women’s bodies produce when they are touched, kissed, cuddled, and generally adored.
That love potion will help repair the rifts in your relationship caused by your ED. And if you bring her to orgasm, she produces even more of the stuff (source).
Now, many men get aroused by touching naked women. Most get especially aroused by making women climax.
If all this focus on her happens to put a little lead in your pencil, consider it an added bonus.
But don’t make It the point of all the attention you’re giving her. Just take advantage of the opportunity when it eventually “comes up.”
4: Stimulate Morning Wood
Your chances of getting an erection first thing in the morning are higher than at any other time of day.
So make it a point to achieve one every day before you get out of bed. If she’s around and willing to help, enlist her aid. If she’s not, do it on your own.
Either way, touch yourself and look at (or think of) your partner until you get as hard as you’re going to get.
Don’t worry about it if at first your wood isn’t all that impressive.
Just getting harder than you usually do is the goal. If you keep at it, eventually you’ll see improvement in your AM erections as a result of this, especially if you’re consistent.
A few things to keep in mind about this method:
- Sex is not the objective here. Don’t be disappointed if you’re not hard enough to penetrate your partner, and don’t set that expectation with her. The objective is the morning wood, and that’s it.
- Resist the temptation to use pornography to help you with the erection. This causes a whole host of other problems.
- Do not masturbate or climax. This can prolong or worsen your ED.
Once you’ve practiced enough to have reliable, solid morning wood, its time to move on to step five.
5: Use That Erection Properly
That previous step could run for several days, or up to a month, depending on the causes and severity of your ED.
Once you do get a solid erection, it is absolutely VITAL that you avoid pornography, climaxes and masturbation.
I know I’m repeating myself, but this is very important.
Yes, you’ll be excited to “play with your rediscovered toy” but doing that will push back the day when you can reliably achieve, maintain, and use your erection.
Instead, wait until you’ve gotten solid morning wood for at least several consecutive days. Once you can do that, you’ll know you’re ready.
When you reach this point, start with a long foreplay session as we discussed earlier.
Don’t put any pressure on yourself. If you lose your erection while you’re getting her “warmed up,” just keep on doing what you’ve been doing all along.
Then, if you can achieve and maintain decent hard wood, give penetration a shot.
If it works, great!
If not, try again in a day or so and add in the two penetration protocols described below before your next attempt.
Emergency Penetration Protocols
ED is especially problematic during “today’s the day” moments.
You have some adult time planned, but you’re worried about getting it up. Which stresses you out, which makes you more likely to experience ED.
These two protocols described below, when used as the big day approaches, will boost nitric oxide and hormone production, which will help….because they’ll give your body extra doses of the chemical materials it needs to make an erection happen.
Prepare and drink the following beverage for three or four days before you plan to have sex.
- Take one raw beet
- Put it through your juicer. If you don’t have a juicer, you can chop it into small cubes and put it in the blender.
- Drink straight, or mix with OJ if you can’t stand the taste.
Raw beet juice has been proven to jumpstart your body’s production of NO2, which is one of the key chemicals your body uses to build an erection.
More nitric oxide in your system will drastically increases your erectile performance.
I recommend taking it in the morning, as the sugars and other micronutrients in beet juice are like mainlining RedBull.
The energy spike can last for several hours, so this is not a bedtime drink.
You can get much more detail on this protocol Here.
This step is optional…
The beet juice will give you everything you need to fight mild to moderate erectile dysfunction. But if your problem is severe, this second protocol may be necessary
Starting at least a week before your date, choose seven supplements from this list:
- Pine Pollen
- Tongkat Ali
- Nettle Root
- He SHou Wu
- Horny Goat Weed
- Ant Extract
- Mucuna Extract
- Rhodiola Rosea
Take the recommended dosage of one each day, cycling through the seven so you never take any given supplement more than once per week.
This prevents your body from building up tolerances to any of the supplements, so you get the maximum impact of the dose every time.
Like I said, this isn’t mandatory if cash is tight right now, but if you can afford it, these herbs will definitely help.
ED Ruining Your Relationship – Conclusion
The good news here is, the downward spiral can be turned upward if you do the work.
If you make her feel cared for, it will improve the quality of your relationship. This will relieve relationship stress and ease up your ED.
Then, when your girl eventually sees you getting hard for her, she’ll feel loved, appreciated and sexually attractive.
This will further increases the quality of your relationship…
And once you reach this point, you’ll be right back in the game.